YOU are the key to effective Stress Management

Tips for Better Management of Your Stress…

Stress management techniques can help to control the levels of stress, with a purpose of improving everyday functioning. This article focuses more on how the mind perceives stress and how being mindful can help in Stress Management.


Stressy lives… Stressed YOU!

With life having tuned into a rat race, it often becomes difficult for us to segregate all its aspects into separate containers. There are times when we are happiest and the very same day can get us to face our ultimate lows. Thanks to a lot of search and vocabulary, we brand this dis-balanced as Stress.

Scientifically stress is defined as something that elementally throws us off balance. However, on a simpler note, stress just means that you have lost control over a certain aspect owing to too much pressure.


1. Stress is Subjective

Over age and with time, the factors that we consider stressful or problematic are subject to change. What was considered stressful in middle school will be cakewalk today. Similarly, what stresses you right now will be irrelevant tomorrow. In all probability, stress is a result of perception, is subjective and is over much based on how we see things rather than how something warms up to us.

The basic objective of learning how to manage stress well is that you have to know that stress can be kept at bay. The best part about stress is that it bothers us only as long as we want it to do so.


2. Stress Management is a process

In order to manage stress, you need to be clued into yourself. Never ever expect somebody to cajole you or take your hand at the right moment. Sure you could be lucky to have these support systems but then again, never take things to exist as they are always. Moving on to a deeper level, you will realize that stress management needs deeper understanding of the whys and hows of stress itself.


3. Knowing the crux of Stress

Stressful nights, days or phases are all attributed to problems. The best bit about managing stress when it comes to this context is that you have to know how to face a problem. The moment you begin to take a problem as something that is commonplace instead of something that is only curtailing you life, the stress bubble is busted. Effective management of stress requires you to think rationally. The general and average human being tends to think that the entire world and even destiny is up against him or her in arms. This silly thought has to be out rightly rejected.


4. You need to see that not every problem is limited to you

There is no life that goes without a problem. You really have to know what stress arises from. Some can pin it down on your reactions, your expectations as well as your understanding. Some might have issued owing to all of these together while some might have a single issue.

Whenever a situation arises to disturb your own peace, there needs to be two clear roads to take. One road could lead to further compromise and a final closure. On the other hand, yet another road could be more constructive and lead to a culmination of what you actually want. Stress is best fought out instead of given in to it. The idea that stress could be damaging comes from the fact that you barely get that space of mind wherein you know that stress is bound to co-exist.


5. The higher you allow stress to dominate you, the greater will be the damage inflicted

The major crisis that comes from stress is the result of how poorly you take stress. We always tend to equate a problem with a paramount end-result. You might never once realize that the problem would fail to exist if you actually tackle it calmly. The worst problems are those that stem from personal relationships, finances and even a profession. However, the approach to the problems depends on how and where you pit your priorities. Surely, none of the problems can be considered less or more in terms of its significance. On another plain, you do need to know that each problem has a different way of bothering us.

For instance, in case you had a monetary problem, you would always want to have more money. But then, thinking more practically—as yourself- is it always possible to suddenly get monetary influxes from time to time? No, it is not! The idea that I am trying to propagate here is that money will cease to be a stressful factor only when you see it as a need but not a dominator.

Try changing you outlook and set your own limits first. This is the best way you can keep stress at bay. We will come to more of this is the later parts of the piece. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that everything happens for the best. This is the best way to know that nothing can bother you unless you want it to bother!


6. The well defined boundaries you need to set

Remember all those times when you fell flat while practicing a run at school? Or the time you goofed up your speech on stage? The concerned teachers, the mocking friends, the supportive best friend and the hassled you—do you still remember all these pictures clearly? Life is not much different from your school days. You face a challenge in life as you did back then. You get mixed reactions. You still get less support and more jibes. So what has changed? The one thing that has changed is we get stressed in life while life at school meant we could overcome these situations all too easily. Is it because we do not know to fight back harder anymore? You might feel that younger age lets us get over situations more easily.


7. Create backup plans

The real answer lies in the fact that we have forgotten to set limits for ourselves as we age. Younger days meant days of less worry since we know that things will get set as per a pattern. This was not because our parents took care of us but because we knew that excess worries will get us nowhere. Then, why the issue of worrying so much over every setback, low or failure now?

We are supposed to be more mature as we age. The reality is we begin to forget that we did not set boundaries on what can actually bother us and what cannot. Create backup plans. You need to think of any situation as a test. You either get the right answer and unlock great marks or you fail it and you get a chance at it again. Of course, this knowledge and realization needs courage. You will always need to know that if you set a limit that a financial disappointment will not mean you lose your mind, your body will follow that.


8. Stop carrying Baggage

Fumbling along the path of life is natural. There is no way out of fumbles or jumbles in life. This in no way means that you have to be perpetually stressed. To begin with, stop crying around all your baggage. The more you think of what could have been instead of focusing on what it is actually like, the worse it gets for your nerves. You really have to realize that the struggle with stress can be curtailed or cut back on when you give up all those thoughts on what you had to leave behind. Most commonly thoughts such as those desires you left unfulfilled, the thing you gave up for your partner or the lost prospects bother us since we are playthings of time. The strength you have as a human being is put to real test in the way you actually face these issues.

We always want a better future but are afraid to give up the past baggage. This is because there are a hundred particles of greed we have within us. Human beings are created in a way that they long for what is gone or is not theirs.


9. Leave a room for spillage or changes

The fact that you tend to talk too much of ‘what could have been instead of what is’ another huge reason for stress. Managing stress or doing away with stress becomes easier when you look at the possibility of how bright you life is now. Living in the moment helps. This is primarily due to the fact that once you have tuned up your life around what you have now, you tend to be more satisfied. Plan life but not to the point that you become enslaved to the plans. Always leave a room for spillage or changes.


10. The tendency to feel Guilty

The worst bit that renders it more difficult to manage stress is the inclination you have towards pining all guilt on your own self. This is especially true in relationship where you tend to link up every aggression or negativity to the fact that you might have done something wrong. There are some individuals who are arrogant and never indulge in self-guilt too. However, none of the two extremes work to help you build a happy life. You always need to know that if things are amiss it is because you need to do it some other way and with more effort than ever before.


11. Self esteem Woes

The basic issue that prolongs our stress levels is that we pin everything to the point of self-esteem. We barely understand that our self-esteem needs to be right on track if we were to actually see the end of a problem. The gullibility of us human beings makes us all the more prone to accepting everything as a fault. Either it is our own or somebody else’s for once. Make a change by tackling stress without pinning it on a label. Yes, you might have had a major problem but instead of wasting energy crying over it and dashing your self-esteem to pieces, make a move.

Trace the main source of the problem. Try and anticipate the immediate effect and get going on solving the same. Try and see what best you can do to salvage the damage. Once you are actually involved in solving the problem, your stress nerves will cease to work. Stress management actually means that you take the bull by the horn. It does not mean forgetting everything and sitting behind the issues that have come into being. That is poor stress management. The idea that always clicks is good stress management.


12. Learn to be happy with yourself

You need to understand that happiness can come from the smallest things, make sure you set small limits to what makes you happy. Dream big but expect little. Do not expect to have the biggest and the bestest overnight. Rather, you need to plan for being content with your lot. The higher you aim, you might progress but do not aim to a point that you are stressed out on a daily note.


Stress is subjective and stress management is based on perception, it is a clear case of understanding how to manage something without hurting yourself. The fact that stress management is such a popular term proves that stress can never bash you up. Let stress make you better, not bitter!

Aashish Nanda

I am not a Spiritual Guru. I am not a Healer. I am not a Coach. I am not a Transformer. After trying to define myself, with various labels, I realized that I am simply a Muser... I just pen down what appeals to me. Please consult a professional guide, in case you need any advice.

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