We all have had that phase, or maybe still have where we genuinely doubted our self worth. Am I good enough? Do people like me? Am I being laughed at or criticized by others? Am I not pretty enough? Questions like these keep haunting us all the time. And these are not going to help us any way. Please consult a related expert to analyse if the reason for low self esteem is issue based or you are simply a habitual offender.
“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” ― Steve Maraboli
How can we overcome this low self-esteem barrier?
Others will never respect a person with low Self Esteem. Here are some tips to help understand these issues…
1/6. Learn to appreciate others and accept appreciation
Human beings are hesitant to appreciate someone else’s good work. At the same time they are often left embarrassed when appreciated by others.
How awesome would your employee feel when you appreciate his/her constant hard work or a very impressive the presentation was? You would just make their day. Thus compliments are a way of enhancing the confidence and self-worth of self and also the people around you.
2/6. Believe when others say you are good
You never see yourself the way others see you. Remember when you are crying over the imagined incompleteness and a complex, someone else is admiring you for the person you are and the life you live. Why should we not keep faith in ourselves when your loved ones have invested a lot of faith in you?
Never think someone else out there leads a better life than you, which makes you a lesser person. When you try to see yourself the way others do, you will realise you have been living a fulfilling life.
3/6. You are as beautiful as anyone else out there
Trust me, even the beauty pageant winners would be dissatisfied with the way they look. But what worth does your beauty add or contribute in this world? End of the day, people love you for the person you are, how willing you are to help.
You are capable of numerous beautiful things. Try to identify them rather than getting depressed over your weight or complexion issues. Your family and friends stand by you, not because you are physically beautiful, because they believe you are a good person. Just be healthy and the naturally beautiful you.
4/6. Accept you deserve most of it
Never think you were just totally lucky enough that all of it happened. Your achievements and success stories are all mostly due to your constant hard work, determination and only partially due to luck.
Nothing was given to you for free. If today, you are at a certain level or position, it is because you have earned it. You have taken the efforts to make it happen and that is why it has happened. Just like you own up your mistakes, own your success too.
“Why escape your intended purpose by copying and trying to be someone else? You will discover who you were meant to be only after you have shown confidence being yourself.” ― Suzy Kassem
5/6. Your worth is not just determined by the money in your pocket
Money does not determine the value you hold in your family or society. Your capabilities are reflected by how well you manage your things, and how much you have been for others at the time of need. People look up to you not because you have earned money, but the way you have earned it, the passion behind it, the perseverance it took to get you to that level. Similarly, you are not looked down upon if you have a penny less than the other next to you.
Everything that everyone does in this world has dignity as far as it is done without compromising with ethics and morals. You are a successful person not if you have landed on a high paid job, but only if you work with all your heart. Your heart will only be there where your passion is. So try landing at your heart is, and you will never regret it.
6/6. Remind self to love every bit of YOU
Keep reminding yourself how awesome you have been, how you crossed all those finishing lines, how you struggled and came out of the difficulties, and how most of these incidents made you a stronger and better person.
“When you’re constantly thinking of others and what they must be thinking or feeling or expecting, you wind up in this perpetual state of trying to please them. You see yourself through their eyes and you lose sight of who you are.” ― Michael Soll
Your past incidents which you thought would scar you forever are just mere chapters of your life. They do not alter anything. Every mistake can be made up with something good. So, at no point think about giving up, love what you are, and appreciate this beautiful thing called life and the people you have in it.
Respect, Love, and Value yourself. Always remember to be good to yourself by taking care of yourself. Make yourself a priority and know that it’s okay. Don’t feel guilty for loving yourself, first! You’re just as important as anybody else. Also, do not be afraid to seek help, whenever needed.