Healing through self expression is the best way let go of the blocked emotions and frozen feelings
Joy: Come on, group hug! You too, Anger.
Anger: Don’t touch me.
– Inside Out (The Movie)
If you have watched the movie you will know what I m talking about. This movie is all about emotions and how pivotal they are when we have to take lives decisions. Some nightmares are scarier than others. Some of the dreams are sweeter than others. Nevertheless they are all dreams.
It is the same with emotions. No matter how stuck you are with one, they won’t let go of being controlling agents in your subconscious. So do not hide what you feel for someone. What if that very person you want to sort out things with is also feeling the same urge to do it?
Open up before it is too late
There are various ways of expressing yourself. Not everyone is born an extrovert. Very few people are blessed with excellent skills in communication. What about those who do not have these special qualities? Will they remain a mystery to all? Will they suppress what they feel and need within themselves? Well the answer is simply a NO and this is how you make it a NO!
Read plenty of Books
Reading storybooks is a good practice and will help you go a long way in improving your communication skills. Read classics or books those have a different take on relationships. Try and analyze the complexities of the characters. Yes! Some characters are fictional but even they can give you a way out of your problems. Books are surely your best friends in this case.
Talk it out
Talking always helps. All it costs is a coffee and is one of the most effective ways to recover a lost soul. Express and let others know exactly how you feel. If you find it difficult to talk, talk to a mirror or a friend who you can rely on. Breaking a pattern of bottled up helps no one.
Do not brood, beyond a point
People often tend to brood over the things that have always been a part of your life. Do not forget that rejection is a part and parcel of life. It has been there since time immemorial. So face the truth that not everything will go your way.
Stop thinking about the same thing for too long. It may happen that you are not prepared to face your own feeling now. So stop pondering over it and distract yourself. Spend some quality time with your closest people and see how things turn around for you. You will feel energy engulf you and make you take a step forward to accepting your feeling.
Acceptance of anything be it negative or positive influences your psychological power. You feel in tandem with the rest around you and you surely know what your next step will be.
Beware of sudden outbursts of anger
Anger, beyond a sense of expression, is a dangerous emotion. It is good to display your spirit of rebellion at the right time but persistent anger may completely ruin your spirit.
Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured
Anger is an emotion you can never trust. Mood swings are common is every being and so are sudden outbursts. If you are in a state where expressing your emotion is a trouble for you, these will become a problem. You will become cranky and get easily triggered to fire yourself at the smallest of incidences. These cause mental and other health problems. Your central nervous system may be completely damaged if your anger is overpowering you to great extent. So calm down!
Be a critic of yourself
As soon as you start been your own critic, your aura will change. The self-confidence you gain in self-criticising will surely help you lose your outer shell. Try to better yourself everyday and see what magic it does. Yes I know that all of this can be easily told. Many people will ask you not to be your own critic. It is a way of self demonization to be a self critic some say. If you are a good enough critic, the world will appreciate your talent. Do things on your own accord and YES! Don’t over criticise!!!
Spend time with yourself
By stating this I do not ask of you to begin brooding perpetually. Spending time with yourself will include knowing yourself. If you start spending time with yourself effectively then you will learn what you really need. Once you start communicating with yourself you will build a life totally dependent on your ideals. The best way to express hidden emotions is often letting go.
Life is a short journey and it often requires a lot of time to let go of past experiences…
Stop pondering over the why. Don’t hide what you feel for someone or about something that any may have done. Stop over thinking and over reacting.
Remember these things and keep going…
1. Know that you are unique. No feeling is more than your health and well being.
2. Stop trying if a person is not reciprocating.
3. Stoop over what you get from a relation. It all about the sharing and the receiving.
4. Ponder over your self worth.
5. Evaluate how must you are ready to give up for someone.
It is Selfish world Dear Readers…
No one will look back at you if you at done with. You are like a paper; meant to be written on. However you are thrown away later if your use is over. So freshen a flutter in every burst of the new wind. You are special and so are your feelings. Do not hide them.
” If you simply ignored the feeling, you would never know what might happen, and in many ways that was worse than finding out in the first place. Because if you were wrong, you could go forward in your life without ever looking back over your shoulder and wondering what might have been. ”
― Nicholas Sparks, Message in a Bottle